My brother.

I had the best talks with my brother this morning. We talked about a lot of things--I yelled at him because he's not putting any effort into looking for a job. He told me about what some of his friends said when they were all talking about their love lives. It turns out so far my brother has liked 3 girls since moving up here, but each time, that girl is already in a relationship. I give a lot of respect to my brother, because he got self-control. A couple of his idiot friends (cough, like Andy) were saying things like, Why don't you try to steal her away? (since he likes a girl right now at UW Bothell, but she already got a boyfriend). Andy made up excuses, like what if the guy is abusive, or doesn't treat her right. Then maybe my brother would be the right guy for her. But instead, my brother said, "If the guy doesn't treat her right and the girl is unhappy, I don't think stealing her away is the solution. I'd rather just talk to her about it because I care. If she's unhappy with her relationship, then she'd say so and figure out a way to get out of it. Stealing her away doesn't solve anything, I'd rather just be a friend first and help her through the situation."

It's interesting because I think I would say the same thing if I were him. And with those excuses Andy said, I now understand why he does the things he does. He makes stupid excuses, and has zero self-control.

My brother told me that in the past, he liked Allison and another time he liked Keala. During those times both of the girls already had a boyfriend. So what my brother did was he TOLD them he liked them since they were good friends anyways, so that the girls would know not to do anything that might accidentally lead him on. They'd be more careful and cautious to not do anything that would make my brother like them more. I think that's pretty smart :) Sure, it might affect the friendship a bit, but it's better than letting himself fall for them more and more, you know?